Foreign learners of English want to have in-depth adult conversations with native speakers, but some may stay quiet from embarrassment about their ability to communicate effectively. They may also feel as if they don’t know enough about U.S. cultural topics to speak appropriately. Your partners will appreciate your patience and persistence in figuring out what they want to express.
Use clarification strategies:
- Say it a different way
- Give an example
- Draw a picture
- Write it down
Be aware of the expressions you use.
Some expressions might be difficult for a non-native speaker to understand. Avoid using slang and phrasal verbs that can’t be translated. Write down the expression and ask your ESL partners if they know it. They will be glad to learn new “everyday” English words.
Speak clearly and slower than usual, and get a sense of whether or not your communication partner understands you.
If you know you are a fast talker, slow down your speech. Ask: “Am I speaking too fast?” If your partner’s (polite) answer is, “A little,” it means you should slow down a lot. But be careful not to slow down too much, and making them feel as though you are talking down to them.
Some of the topics you talk about to others require cultural background they may not have yet: certain TV shows, special types of food dishes that one culture may all know/eat, sports team names, names, locations of cities and states, events and activities. Keep asking, “Do you know about this?” “Have you heard of this?” and offer explanations. This will help them build cultural knowledge that will allow them to participate more fully in this country.
Your partner may have as much trouble with your name as you do with theirs. Teach your partner how to say and spell your name and ask your partner to help you say and spell theirs. Write it down. Practice saying the name several times. Don’t be embarrassed to ask your partner to repeat as many times as it takes.
Participate and share the time.
Ask questions as well as giving your point of view. If you tend to be a quiet person, push yourself to give your ideas and opinions. If you tend to be a talker, share the talking time so that both of you get a chance to speak. In either case, take responsibility to invite your partner into the conversation.
Ask if it’s okay.
If you’re not sure if a question is culturally appropriate, begin it by saying, “I hope it’s okay if I ask you …” A sincere desire to know is usually appreciated, regardless of the topic.
carry on private conversations with other friends, answer your cell phone, lean back in your chair with your legs stretched out, look at your watch, or gaze off in the distance while you are meeting with your partner. Your partner will notice these behaviors and think you are bored and don’t really care to learn about other cultures.
Begin by telling your partner your language proficiency level. Then, when you’re ready to practice your second language, ask if it is okay that you begin speaking your partner’s native language.
Now it is your turn to ask your partner to clarify, draw pictures, and slow down! Continue your conversation. Your meetings should not take the form of a tutoring session. Feel free to bring travel books, picture books, or other items that will help the two of you better discuss your countries and cultures.
that one language does not dominate your meeting time; the idea is to help both of you practice your second language while learning about each other’s culture.
Please contact the College of Architecture Diversity Council via email at: firstname.lastname@example.org